Am I Showing Narcissistic Traits?
A self-reflection on how you handle being challenged.
- 19 questions
- About 6 minutes
- Free, no account
- Result shown straight away
Most people who ask themselves this question are not the people who need to worry about it — asking is already a form of self-examination. This quiz won't tell you what you are. It describes patterns you've reported in three ordinary areas: what happens when someone criticises you, how much of your attention sits on your own needs, and how easily you can hold someone else's version of events alongside your own.
What it can tell you
- Where your answers sit on self-focus and defensiveness
- Where your answers sit on perspective-taking
- What the pattern in your own answers looks like written down
What it cannot
- Diagnose anything, or stand in for a professional opinion
- Tell you what your partner thinks, feels or intended
- Know anything you have not told it
Read this first
This is an educational self-reflection exercise, not an assessment and not a diagnosis. It cannot identify a personality disorder or any clinical condition, and nothing here should be read as a label. Everyone shows some of these traits some of the time; they exist on a spectrum and they move with stress, sleep and circumstance. Your answers describe one honest half hour, not who you are. If something in the result worries you, a conversation with a therapist will tell you far more than a questionnaire can.
This test asks about experiences that are painful to put into words, and it cannot tell you whether something is happening to you. If any part of it is frightening or too close to home, stop and talk to someone.
About 6 minutes19 questionsNo account, no email
Questions people ask about this test
- How long does the "Am I Showing Narcissistic Traits?" test take?
- About 6 minutes. There are 19 questions, you can go back and change an answer, and the full result appears as soon as you finish.
- Do I need an account to see my result?
- No. There is no account, no email address and no payment involved in taking this test or reading the result. An account only exists if you want to keep a result to look at later — it does not unlock a longer version, because there is no longer version.
- Is this a diagnosis?
- No. This is an educational self-reflection exercise, not an assessment and not a diagnosis. It cannot identify a personality disorder or any clinical condition, and nothing here should be read as a label. Everyone shows some of these traits some of the time; they exist on a spectrum and they move with stress, sleep and circumstance. Your answers describe one honest half hour, not who you are. If something in the result worries you, a conversation with a therapist will tell you far more than a questionnaire can. The scoring is plain arithmetic applied to what you report, not an assessment by a clinician.
- Can my partner see my answers?
- No. This test is taken on your own and nothing is shared with anybody. If you want to compare answers with a partner, the separate couples test asks you both the same questions privately and only compares them once you have both finished and both agreed.
- What if the questions are upsetting?
- Stop, and talk to someone. A questionnaire cannot tell you what is happening in your relationship, and it is not a substitute for a counsellor, a GP or a support line. Our crisis resources page lists services that can help.
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